Finding Happiness vs. Creating Happiness
We can blame this on language, the misconception that is, making us believe that happiness is something to be found rather than created. Does the idea sound foreign? It’s not; it’s merely practical and highly attainable. You see for years now pop culture, media and people you hang around with have been referring to happiness as something that one must seek out and find…like the perfect pair of shoes, If only it were that easy.
Recently, on my ‘quest’ to find happiness I came to the shocking realization that if one goes out on a search to find happiness, one will find it. Yes, when you go looking for joy with open arms it will come to you willingly. So where then lies the issue? The issue hides in the undeniable fact that when you find happiness, you can lose it. When you find the ‘perfect’ relationship, the amazing job, empowerment and a new outlook on life, these are wonderful yet temporary feelings and circumstances, comparable to ‘band-aid solutions’.
How then, does one create happiness? By learning to manipulate your feelings and thoughts, even when they are attempting to get the best of you. It’s easy to be happy when life is great and everything is going according to plan and working in your favor. It is, however, a great deal of work to create happiness when there are significant voids in your life. Happiness begins internally and ends externally. Once you understand that your happiness is not dependent on anything or anyone, but on you and you alone, you are on your way to creating constant purpose, meaning, and joy in your life, which will bring you permanent happiness. Think of it as a long-term commitment to your mental, emotional and physical well-being, and here, I’ve made you a small to-do list…
8 Steps to Creating Happiness (I could elaborate but it’s pretty straight forward)
1) Eliminate worry
2) Stop blaming
3) Take action
4) Think positive
5) Feel good
6) Surround yourself with likeminded people
7) Eat well and be active
8) Let go of the past